It's the mental muscle memory they install which leads us down the road to ruin. It's hard to undo that conditioning. You have to be deliberate, but it's like when you quit smoking or drinking. You have cravings, and those cravings pull you the wrong way. Progress is slow, but it does get easier.

The second half of your comment is very insightful. Our objective is to help people recognize their hate reactions are a trauma response. We have to remove that trauma. Very well said.