Thank you for writing that brave and powerful piece. I've never believed it was necessary to hit a child, and I've gotten into arguments with people over it. Also, I wish I could understand better this mechanism that compels us to take the blame when other people hurt us. Is that a way of getting back some sense of control? I know I've tormented myself the same way. There are far too many stories of abuse, particularly men attacking children. I wish our society would act more responsibly. There's so much hurt out in the world that nobody wants to recognize. This is a hard story and my heart goes out to you.