The consensus opinion, often repeated, is that their relationship began in Paris. If the theory that it was a “grand romance” is going to get tossed around, the alternate possibility that it was cruel and abusive relationship must also be taught. She was not allowed to write her story or ask for aid, and the fact that Jefferson considered her his property, had 6 children with her, and had her live with him since the age of 14 is strong circumstantial evidence.