You make a really good point. No matter what concept you're talking about, false actors can always transform it into something bad. Yes, "healing" is good, but exactly as you mentioned, the concept can also be used to guilt people into taking another beating.

More and more, I'm finding greater relevance with MLKs comment on "passive white moderates." He said they were a greater obstacle than the overt white supremacists, and that is a little hard to understand. But then, all you have to do is recognize that it was the passive moderates that blocked restoring the Voting Rights Act, and it starts to make sense.

Sigh... thanks for your thoughtful comment. It's a long road to even understanding the challenges we face. I feel like I'm chipping away at it. Best to you!